The sexual biorhythms of men and women often do not match. Many partners are familiar with the stories “not now”, “not today” and “I don’t want to”. What to do if you seethe with passion, and the partner “does not start”?
The problem of the discrepancy between female and male sexual desires can be directly related to biorhythms. If a partner refuses intimacy, this does not always mean that he has lost the desire to have sex, love has passed, and the tomatoes have withered. It’s just at this point that your sexual partner’s libido decided to take a break. So to speak, take a break. Of course, such respite often leads to resentment and is perceived as a manifestation of selfishness in the style of “I want you, but you don’t want me.”
Dr. Paul Kelly of the University of Oxford argues that the human biological clock changes with age and this is quite normal. Such watches, in fact, control our body and determine for everyone the best time for sleep, relaxation, and … lovemaking. As trite as it sounds, the desire to have sex is largely related to the level of hormones in our body, but, fortunately, is not the only reason for this.
The German chronobiologist and sexologist Peter Platz determined the approximate schedule of the sexual biorhythms of women and men. He proved that the stronger sex actively wants sex in the morning (from 6 to 9 o’clock), while women are not yet ready for it. And indeed, many men are drawn to morning pranks, while the fair sex thinks more about the morning toilet, about gathering children for kindergarten or school, as well as about future worries for the day (shopping trips, visits to the medical center, or dry cleaning).
In women, according to Platz, the desire for intimacy wakes up no earlier than 12 noon, which often makes sex on weekdays impossible due to a lot of household chores and work fuss. At about the same time, the sexologist claims, the man is ready for sex again.
According to the results of the chronobiologist’s research, disagreements between partners regarding intimacy happen not only in the mornings, but also in the evenings: from 19 to 22 hours, when a man wants, but a woman does not, because she will mature for “this” much later – after 22.00, that is, at the moment when the partner will be overcome by sleep. This is quite understandable: by night, a woman is already free from daytime worries and is ready to move on to love pleasures, but male energy has almost dried up.
If the biorhythms do not match, there is a way out – if possible, you need to look for compromises, choosing the most “convenient” (optimal) time for sex for both. And it doesn’t hurt to try to find a “control panel” for erogenous female and male zones to make the task easier. Fortunately, sex depends not only on the level of hormones in our bodies but also on events, thoughts, moods, and romantic settings.
According to American sexual health expert Samantha Evans, sex is not only pleasant but also has many health benefits (increases immunity and stress resistance). Enjoying sexual intimacy can improve your mood because endorphins (“hormones of joy”) are produced during it. Regular and high-quality sex life even increases the ability to work, which was proved in 2017 by research at the College of Business (Oregon, USA).
So when is the best time to have sex: morning, afternoon or evening? How many times?
No one will give an exact answer to this question. It all depends on the needs of both partners, their biorhythms, character, sexual constitution, health, and mood.
In any case, making love is necessary only by mutual agreement to receive both moral and physical satisfaction. If your biorhythms converge, you are lucky. If not, you can always find a compromise.