“Go to a psychologist with this!” It’s easy to say. But it takes a lot of courage to come to a stranger (even if he is an expert) and confide in him about your deepest difficulties. What obstacles most often stand in the way of people?.
“I failed, and I still have to tell someone?! I can’t help it, it’s a shame!”
Even with a psychologist, you solve your problem, you just don’t have to be alone, you can use the knowledge and experience of a psychologist and, possibly, emotional support. Many problems can really be solved independently without a psychologist. The question is how long he will have to worry about them. With a psychologist, the path from a vicious circle to knowledge passes faster. The ability to ask for help when it is convenient for us (often almost necessary) is an ability that is out of the question to learn in life. Do you want to be alone in everything for the rest of your life? Believe me, you don’t need to.
Conviction.
“What I’m doing seems completely irrational to me, but I can’t change it. This psychologist will think I’m completely nuts.”
Everyone sometimes encounters behavior that is incomprehensible at first glance, if only people would trust each other a little. Sometimes it almost doesn’t limit our lives, but sometimes it’s a big burden. In any case, if you understand the true reason for this behavior, you will find that it is not bad, but a consequence of how you learned to act in the world, a consequence of what happened to you in your life. life… A good psychologist knows that your “irrational” behavior is just a consequence, and will not try to put you in a “nut” box. Instead, he wants you to understand his behavior and, on this basis, change it so that it does not limit your life.
Underestimating the problem.
And if he tells me: “Are you kidding that you bother yourself with such a trifle!”? A psychologist has no right to judge how important the problem is to you. From the outside, they look petty, it hides the real important essence, and even if it does not lead to a critical problem for you, a psychologist will help you navigate the situation.
Disclosure.
“What if the psychologist knows someone from my environment? What if someone finds out?”
Every psychologist is obliged to respect confidentiality. This is his professional honor. So it’s up to you to tell your surroundings that you are going to a psychologist.
The exception for a psychologist is his supervisor (a psychologist for a psychologist), and for a psychologist paid by a medical insurance company – documentation in healthcare. However, even this information is protected by confidentiality. If you are worried about where the information about you will go, ask a specific psychologist at the very beginning of cooperation.
Surrender.
“I am a missing person, a psychologist will abandon me. No one can help me, and now I will confirm.”
A psychologist knows that psychotherapy (or psychological counseling) can make a big difference. He worries with clients that even if something seems to be an unsolvable problem at the beginning, a satisfied client leaves at the end of the cooperation. So the psychologist will not give up on you, but he knows that sometimes it may not be the most suitable option for you. Sometimes they will recommend a group or pair form of psychotherapy or a colleague who works with a method that may be more useful for you.
A bad psychologist.
“What if I choose the wrong psychologist? I do not know which one to choose. Who knows!”
Think about what criteria are important to you, and just emotionally or rationally choose one of the possible psychologists. When choosing, you can also take into account personal recommendations or recommendations, often more than 5 certificates will be prompted by a psychologist. He usually knows whether the client made the right choice within one to three sessions. Do not be afraid to change a psychologist if his methods or the psychologist himself do not suit you. Do not hesitate to trust your psychologist. A good psychologist will try to advise you and will not be angry that you go to a colleague. He will want you to find the most suitable solution for you.
Bad customer.
“What if I don’t know what to say? What if I’m not understanding? What if I don’t have enough confidence to tell him?”
You definitely don’t need to prepare for a meeting with a psychologist. Sometimes clients prepare for the first session to find out what really bothers them or what they would really like differently. However, this preparation is not necessary. This clarification can take place at the first lesson with a psychologist. Don’t worry about being misunderstood. A psychologist is here to listen to you and try to understand you. If it seems that he does not understand you, do not hesitate to tell him about it. He’ll be glad. It’s easier to find a common note. You may not trust the psychologist enough to tell him about your problem. Do not rush. It’s definitely not good to “like”. Maybe we should look for more, check with a psychologist… Sometimes a client trusts a psychologist only after several meetings, and this is not bad. No expectations from you in sessions, how to be a “good customer”. This is your space. For example, if you want to end a session, you can leave the entire session without sound.
Many people postpone solving their mental problems. At the same time, they often stay alone with their problems for a long time. In my experience, clients experience noticeable relief already at the first visit to a psychologist. They don’t have to keep their problem and figure out what they can do with it. Would you like to go to a psychologist?
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